Maintaining Balance in your Life
Life is change and as we travel its path we grow and change and so often do the things that are important to us. There is no fixed map of, or designer directions for life, our journey evolves based on the decisons we make on the way. It is therefore really important that we take the time every now and again to re-evaluate ourselves and what we want from life in order to determine whether we are still on track and going where we want to. Ideal times to do this work is when youi reach a life cross-roads or any time you feel your life is "out-of-balance".
Recognizing your Life Balance
Who am I and what do I want to do?
The first hurdle to achieving good "life balance" is to answer the question... What is important to you, what are you passionate about, what do you love? Take the time to discover what you really want from life and who you really are. Explore your authentic self for what you really love and desire.
Some people may love their work so much they'd do it for free, others may find their familly really important, many may be inbetween. For others exploring their creative talents may be their dream or travelling to foreign adventures. All of this is part of the joy of life! We are all different and love different things and have different dreams. Every person is unique and for each the answer will be different and therefore; for each the "balance" will be different.
Set aside guiltThis is your life, you can live it as you choose. So when you look inside and discover what you really want in life, and who you really are; there is no need to feel guilty. You are entitled to your feelings and to follow your dreams if you choose to. If you follow your path, then you need to do so from a place of "detached love" ( see unconditional love ), setting aside fear and guilt and accepting with love the challenges and difficulties that life may present. Do not let others impose guilt on you and feel none for following your own path and being authentic to yourself, trust yourself and your dreams will come true.
Managing conflict,Exploring Options and Setting priorities
It is likely that many of our desires will conflict either with each other or with the reality of our current life. A man may feel conflicted between his work and his familly, a mother may feel conflicted between caring for her newborn or going back to work after maternity leave, a person may feel conflicted between caring for an elderly relative or "escaping" to their own lives. Life is conflict and sometimes the choices may be difficult. But if you know who you are and what you want in life and come from a loving place, your choices will come more easily.
There are often ways of resolving conflicts that will satisfy all of your authentic selves, explore all the options, set your priorities negotiate with the significant others around you to achieve your goals.
And sometimes in order to satisfy a more important part of your authentic self, a dream or two have to be put on the shelf for a while, but remember to keep coming back and giving them a polish until it is their turn!
Staying on your path
Once you have determined you direction, map your path to reach your goal and then move forward. It's great to focus on the final goal, but for the journey, concentrate on the next step.